“The bad news is, you cannot control people and make them like you, accept you, understand you or be nice to you. The good news is, it doesn’t matter.”
That’s a pretty good quote. The only problem with it is – most of the time, we do allow it to matter.
Consider a person who is always insulting others, or someone even as extreme as a bully. It’s very easy (and even normal) to take this kind of behavior personal. But realize that a bully is always hiding something. Even though their actions are aimed at you, they are really covering up an insecurity or weakness. They are saying “I feel like a loser inside – like I have nothing going for me and in order for me to feel better about myself, I have to put you down which in turn lifts me up a little higher”. They do this so much that it becomes ingrained in their personality. When you’re being treated wrong by someone and it’s not your fault, know that they are going through struggles, having a bad day, or even having a bad life. Of course, that doesn’t excuse what they’re doing or make it right, but what it does is help their behavior not get to you and affect your temperament. It helps you not to take it personal. They don’t get to put their stuff on you, but it’s up to you to not let that happen. Don’t accept the bad thoughts. Because the minute you grab onto it and take it personal, it begins to mess up your mindset and the rest of your day, week and sometimes year.
No one can truly ruin our life – we do that ourselves. People may do or say negative things to us, but our life gets ruined when we accept that what they told us is true. Then we began acting and living in a manner that brings on the destructive results (as a response). It may be true that they lied and probably did some things to you that were not fair, but you are the one who decides to accept those things in your mind, keep them there for a prolonged period of time, and allow them to become a part of you. So, please practice not taking things personal. And it takes practice! Keep your mind intact and set on what God needs you to do. Don’t take personal what others may do to you, but do take personal the responsibility of how you respond to what they did.